Resist change and we become rigid and inflexible, limiting our experiences to fit within set parameters and closing the door to new ways of doing things or amazing opportunities. We stay still, treading water in life, until change comes in from outside and hits us like a wave. And because of those self-imposed blinkers, we never even saw it coming.
Fighting change doesn’t make us safer. It makes life more dangerous. When that wave strikes, the more rigid and inflexible we are, the more likely we are to be knocked off balance or broken.
The secret is to soften, moving with change, growing with it, flowing with it. Surfing rather than being submerged. Knowing that change will come and being ready for it.
Struggling against what is often an inevitability is exhausting and our energy is better spent finding ways to respond resourcefully and creatively. If one path is blocked, try another and another. Think outside the box. Or perhaps forget the box altogether. Why not be innovators in our own lives? Why not be inventors? Why not be the ones who set the wheels of change in motion?
And whether we see change as positive or negative (although given that we can’t see the future, we may not even know how it fits into the bigger picture of our lives), surrendering to it is not a sign of defeat, but an active choice to give up a pointless fight.
Change may come in the form of a new job or a lost love, a house move or a misadventure, but in all cases, railing against what is actually happening in our lives is a futile exercise – and an exhausting one.
And yes – we fight against positive changes too. Even the ones that we set in motion ourselves.
And even when we take that plunge, there may be a time when we can’t see land at all and all we’re conscious of is the depth of the water and everything that was once familiar being out of sight.
And this will change too.
By embracing all that change brings, staying creative, resourceful, soft and flexible, we allow the possibility of making it a change for the better.