As it happens, I like these words. I think they're beautiful and positive; I have no qualms about applying them to myself, but I do have a question: How much do they limit our sense of what being a woman can be?
We have created something of a female blueprint – and that means standards have been set and expectations established. If this is the case, what are the assumptions being made about what a woman can achieve and if I don't match up, should I be giving myself a good talking to?
Equally, if we have made these words our own unique property, how much do they skew our sense of what a man can or should be?
Of course men can be nurturing, giving, resourceful etc, but are these the words they would choose to describe their masculinity? Probably not. And I know they're not the words that immediately spring to mind for me.
As a general rule, 'male' words are related to performance, personal power and intellect over emotion – a few that spring to mind include tough, charming, powerful and dependable.
And what about the words that can comfortably be applied to both sexes - words like strong? It seems they have very different overtones depending on who you're talking about.
Do a strong man and a strong woman possess the same kind of strength? I'm not sure they do. Strength is a nominalisation that translates very differently depending on the gender in question. When used to describe a man 'strength' tends to imply physicality. In a woman, it suggests more a sense of determination or some kind of mental ability to withstand hardship and difficulty.
We use words so often without thinking about what they really mean or what we mean by them. For this reason, many conversations are based entirely on approximation because, let's face it, life's easier that way. If we were to consider the full implications of everything we say before we say it, there'd be many long drawn out silences.
But sometimes, words are worth thinking about because they're never just words. The way we use them reflects our sense of who we believe we are in our world, as well as what we expect from others.
Words allow us to express ourselves, but can also limit the ways we have to do it. Unless of course you get creative. So why not become that unexpected description of yourself and be a word you've never been before.