Think of the possibilities for happiness if we could allow it to become limitless, unconfined by the length of a leg or the shape of a face...
How would it be if we could feel it within ourselves - at least most of the time - and not need someone else to prove it's there?
What if we owned and were responsible for our own beauty and lived it out on a daily basis?
When I was five, beauty meant something shiny - platinum blonde hair that sparkled in the sunlight like it did on television, my mother's evening dress and her squeaky, shiny black patent shoes - and my own smaller, rounder versions - were objects to be adored. I watched my feet as I walked and thought they were beautiful.
When I was a teenager, beauty was about a flat stomach. I used to turn sideways to the mirror every morning to make sure I had one. Everything, I decided, looked better from the side, more beautiful when seen in profile. By halving myself, I became more - according to the standards I set myself. Of course, I was considerably less than I am now. I weighed less. I had experienced less. I knew less.
Now I'm 37, beauty means something else. It's not just visual - it can consume all the senses and, in its most powerful form, it really does. True beauty stirs emotion - a feeling, often an incredible happiness, which starts inside and radiates out, often bypassing thought and existing purely kinaesthetically.
Psychologies magazine have just launched the Positive Beauty Manifesto. It's a good idea (and one that I assume more high profile men would like to be supporting, not just Trevor Sorbie!)
I'd like to think that Positive Beauty is the kind that exists without the time stamp that can make it tomorrow's out of date fashion. It has the shape of reality, of three dimensions, of imperfections. It has the tangibility and depth that comes from the presence of confidence, self-esteem and balance.
While beauty will always remain to a large extent in the eye of the beholder, it is also possible to feel beautiful, to be beautiful from the inside out. That's the kind of beauty that creates not just a visual impression but a fully-realised version of who you are - the one that comes with warmth, charisma, energy, passion, inspiration.
This is the beauty that can make you stand out in a crowd - and hold its attention - the beauty that will draw people to you, that will inspire love, admiration and affection, not just the need for association.
It's the kind of beauty that doesn't need someone else to make it valid - it'll work for you when you're alone. You own it.
It's a good beautiful to be.