2019: the year that changes everything

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Change can blast through your life like a raging forest fire over which you have no control, but you can also be the master of change, the instigator, the change agent for a better future…

Now is the perfect time to set the New Year resolutions in motion for more of what you want and need, as chosen, directed and driven by you.

PAY YOUR RESPECTS TO 2018

Every success, every challenge has something valuable to teach us so don’t be too hasty to relegate 2018 to the archives.

Before you do that, squeeze out the juice by answering the following questions (giving as many examples as you want):

  • When were you happiest and why?

  • What did you most struggle with – and what could you have done differently?

  • What felt out of alignment or uncomfortable for you?

  • What are you most grateful for?

  • What are you most proud of?

  • What did you learn about yourself?

  • How did you change in 2018?

  • What would you like to take with you into 2019?

LOOKING FORWARDS TO 2019

  • What do you want to achieve by the end of this year?

  • What do you want to do more of?

  • What do you want to do differently?

  • What do you want to do on a daily basis?

  • What are your relationship / career and money / health and fitness goals?

  • How will you express yourself creatively / sexually / spiritually?

  • What do you want to do for the first time?

  • What do you want to get better at?

  • Do you need any extra support, learning or resources to achieve your goals?

  • What are the biggest obstacles to you achieving what you want – and what can you do about them?

SCARED OF CHANGE?

Even when we’re unhappy or stuck, it’s often still a situation we’re familiar with and used to. By that token, it sits within our comfort zone. However, change takes us out of that comfort zone, which means even steps in a positive new direction can lead to discomfort or fear.

For example, imagine someone making a career change to follow a dream. They’re excited about the potential to realise a vision and embrace an exciting opportunity, but there’s a lot they need to let go of too, including a particular lifestyle, certain roles and quite possibly an identity that they and their friends, family and partner have got used to. They must say good-bye to the person they were in order to become the person they want to be and step into the unknown.

It takes courage to swim into uncharted waters and away from the security of land. It’s understandable that so many of us hover on the shoreline, drawn by the call to arms of our own potential whilst holding tight onto the rocks – fear and ‘stuckness’ that can go on for years, until we surrender to change in its totality. 

And even when we take that plunge, there may be a time when we can’t see land at all and all we’re conscious of is the depth of the water and everything that was once familiar being out of sight.

And the good news is, this will change too.

Opening ourselves up to the fullness of transformation means re-evaluating what we believe we are capable of as much as letting go of ideas about who we are and our place in the world and allowing ourselves to expand beyond what we know – or think we know – about ourselves. 

By embracing all that change can offer; staying creative, resourceful, flexible and attentive, we allow the possibility of more and greater gifts than we ever imagined.